Saturday, March 28, 2020

Socially Distanced: This Can't Be Good!



Socially Distanced... This Can't Be Good!

Gloria Calhoun, M.Ed.


Due to the global Coronavirus pandemic, social distancing has become the way that we interact with each other; from six feet away and in smaller groups. While I understand why its recommended, I have a personal concern about the detrimental effects this could have on society as we scramble to embrace a new normal.

New technology has affected how we relate to people. Going into a store to purchase essential items is frightening. Everyone is avoiding touching each other. Masks are hiding the smiles which have typically been the universal way to communicate.  We are now being encouraged more than ever to learn new ways to communicate and interact with one another, not through in person contact, but digitally.  Many are resorting to using social media and video conferencing as a way to stay connected.  Unfortunately, a computer screen will never be able to replace a touch on the hand or a pat on the back.  Despite the benefits of digital advancement, it is vital to preserve human touch in order for us truly to thrive. 

Did you know that babies who are daily deprived of touch can die?  If the mother, father, or any other adult in the absence of the parent doesn’t hug, kiss, hold and cuddle the baby for long enough, their development and mental health can be affected and ultimately, their lives! This should prove how vital touch is for human beings.  

Physical contact distinguishes humans from other animals. Shoots, even domestic animals thrive interaction from a human. I own a cockatiel who is a very social animal.  Its been a while since I really interacted with him and it shows.  The less interaction, the more aggressive he gets. I was sitting at my computer the other day when my bird decided to exit his cage and fly towards me. I took off running because I hate it when he flies over my head. After running frantically away from my precious feather baby,  I later figured out that he wasn’t trying to attack me, but he was simply trying to come perch on my shoulder. He was longing for my attention. With the social distance requirement orders that are in place, sometimes I feel like Mango the cockatiel.  I want to break the rules and proceed to embrace a friend or shake someone’s hand. Why? Because humans long for physical touch.  It is proven that the absence of physical bonding and healthy attachments may result in lifelong emotional disturbances. 

My hope for the future after this evil COVID-19 is over and done is that we do not lose our sense of humanity. I pray that people will get connected or reconnect to our creator.  A lot of times when people go through trying times, the first instinct is to distance themselves from God.  My fear is that people will continue to distance themselves from each other which could send many into a spiral of depression and social deprivation. However, by remaining connected to our Lord it will help to overcome any all things because He conquered death, hell and the grave just for us. Continue to pray and keep that heavenly connection. Its where our help comes from!



Sunday, March 15, 2020

Working From Home When The Kids Are Home From School


Working From Home When The Kids Are Home From School
Gloria Calhoun, M.Ed.

Due to the outbreak of the Coronavirus and the spread of COVID-19, thousands of schools have been closed and millions of children throughout the US are out of school using digital learning to complete school work. Many jobs are allowing their employees to work from home to prevent the spread of the virus. While working from home is regular practice for some, it may be new to many others.


I work for a company that provides the opportunity to work from home.  Over the years, I've learned a few things that may help to make it a tad bit easier.   


Conference calls and online meetings can be difficult. Sometimes it seems that as soon as I dial the access code, my kids (the young and the older ones) have tons of questions or they need something. First, understand and accept that kids will be kids. Unfortunately, they don’t understand that when mom and dad are at home working, that it is not party time.  Take time to explain to them that you have to work and can't play and watch Ravens Home all day.


Talk to your kids before you begin your virtual meeting to explain that this is the way you will do your work for a while. I can almost guarantee that there will be constant interruptions that will cause you to lose your concentration. As much as you may want to put earplugs in your ears and zone out, you have to make sure that you are aware of what your kids are doing and learn to multitask to ensure they are being supervised while you are completing your work.  Let them know that you love being home with them, but be sure to have clear expectations in place so they know what to expect from you and how they are expected to behave. 


If you are required to participate in a meeting using conference call or video (FaceTime, Zoom, WebEx etc), here are a few tips:
  • Pay attention to your background. Try to have a plain wall behind you as to not distract the other participants. If this is not possible, at least be sure that your area is tidy. Others are watching and can see everything behind you which could be a distraction.
  • Mind your appearance. Remove your head scarf, brush your hair and put on decent clothes... you will be seen from the waist up. Remember, you are still working and it is expected that you continue to be professional. 
  • Mute yourself when you’re not speaking so that any background noise that your kids may be making will be limited. This way if your child decides to scream and laugh loudly or wrestle with their siblings while you're on an important call with your boss, others won’t be able to hear what’s going on in the background.
  • Plan to have activities available to keep your child busy. Set a timer for the length of your meeting. Let your child know that when they hear the alarm, your meeting is over.  When the timer goes off, take a break and spend a few minutes of quality time with your kiddos. Give them a special treat for being so patient.

Employers, if you have staff who are new to working from home, consider offering a little grace. It takes a lot to adjust to the transition from an office setting to a home office especially with kids at home. Don't forget, their kids are using digital learning for instruction while they are out of school.  It is very likely that they will need mom and dad to help with assignments which will result in multiple interruptions. It will be unreasonable to expect your employees to stare at a computer all day and remain engaged while their kids are cooped up in the house for several weeks.  Give your workers time to make sure things are settled before they are expected to hop on a call. Most of all, trust them to complete the work and be supportive through this transition.  


Interesting days ahead as we adjust to a new normal!



Wednesday, July 10, 2019

Do You Fear God?

By: Gloria Calhoun, M.Ed.

What rules your life, the fear of God or the fear of man? Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe (Proverbs 29:25).

A person who fears God is one whose decisions are guided by God. To fear God means to take Him at His word, knowing that he will follow through on all his promises. 

Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised (Proverbs 31:30). A person who is ruled by the fear of man is one whose decisions are dictated by what other people think. Such a person is a people pleaser. One ruled by the fear of man will repeatedly base decisions on questions like, "How does this make me look? Do you think they'll like it? What if they don't approve?" It is certainly not wrong to ask for input from other people (indeed, it's wise to seek feedback from others); however, it is foolish for your decisions to be guided more by feedback from others than by feedback from God.

There are many verses in the Bible that clearly show the advantage of being someone whose life is guided by the fear of the Lord. Blessed is the man who fears the Lord (Psalm 112:1) Humility and the fear of the Lord bring wealth and honor and life (Proverbs 22:4). The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom (Psalm 111:10). He who fears the Lord has a secure fortress, and for his children, it will be a refuge. The fear of the Lord is the foundation of life (Proverbs 14:26-27).

If you want the fear of God to guide your life, then base your actions on questions like, "what does God think about this? Would God approve of this? or Would I do this if Jesus were right here watching me?" He is... He sees all!!

If you want your life to be blessed, let it be ruled by the fear of God. This fear is a sincere reverence for God. How much do you fear Him?

Excerpts retrieved from Church Bulletin March 8, 2009, Greater New Fellowship Missionary Baptist Church

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